Nothing is more gut-wrenching than knowing you’re meant to do something great in this world, but not being able to move ahead because you’re unsure what to do. Add to that the anxiety that comes from the constant, gnawing sense of time slipping by, and the recurring thought that you should really be much further ahead by now.
I am going to address some of these concerns below:
1. I don’t know what I want to do In my previous blog post (link) I shared the five tools that can help you define whatever you are meant to do. I strongly recommend using them to dig deeper into yourself. The world needs the gift that is truly yours.
It is important to understand what your passion is. When you care about something, it is so much easier to sell it and to connect with people. It is also important to answer the following question: what would be the ideal outcome of your activity? I assume the answer would be money. How much do you need, exactly? How much would you need to make to support your current lifestyle? How many people would need to buy your product or service in order for you to balance that budget of yours? It may well be the case that you only need a few investors or customers to align your business ambitions and lifestyle vision.
The other extreme is having too many ideas and not knowing which one to choose. Remember there might be a way to combine several different skills into one product (i.e. singing + coaching = art therapy). Otherwise, you could focus on the area(s) where you have the most expertise, resources and contacts, which would make starting out much easier.
2. Everyone says I am too ____ [fill the blank: immature, lazy, insecure, irresponsible, undisciplined, uncreative, stupid, etc]
You only have to listen to yourself. There is no one in the entire world who can tell you what to do with your own life, because no one knows you better than yourself. If you need too much external recognition, you might need to consider working on your self-esteem. A good place to start is to give yourself some of the love (https://youtu.be/nAD1LRjjZnA ) you crave so much. You might have not received enough of it in your childhood. Just remember you are not a child anymore, which means you can choose whether to succumb to an emotion or automatic behavior, or to be constructive and positive. We can certainly work on this during my 1-on- 1 coaching sessions (link)
3. Am I too old to start a new career or a new business?
It’s never too late! There are plenty of women in their fifties and sixties starting their careers in all sort of industries, including modeling, sports, music and art. The world is full of strong, powerful women and you can be one of them.
4. I am not sure your idea will actually work/ make money
You are afraid to make a mistake and fail. But let me ask you another question. Are you sure you won’t regret it if you never try? Even failure would teach you more than any MBA. Since we are on the topic, here are a few hints of what you can do to reduce the possibility of failure:
1) Become competitive. The world of capitalism is all about competition. In business as well as in sport, you need to be better than others. Even if you run a non-profit or you do it for pleasure, it is still a business and you need to be better than others.
2) Learn to finish things. If you are reading a book, playing a video game or doing a puzzle – finish it. It will translate into your business habits.
3) Learn to outsource as much as you can and not to ‘keep the ball on your side’. If you have unanswered emails and people waiting for you to provide content, documents, etc, then who can you blame for blocking the growth of your business?
4) Have an active mind. I know we learn to meditate to stop our racing minds, and this is a useful thing to do now and then – but in business you need to be constantly thinking about how to improve, and searching for new ideas and possibilities.
5) Surround yourself with people who out- earn you and out-succeed you. Some people like to hang out with those who are worse off than them. This is usually the case for those who need to boost their self-esteem. However, if you want to grow as a
professional, you need to surround yourself with people who outdo you, to encourage you to reach further. It is an actual rule – we are what 80% of our inner circle is. It is your responsibility to create that circle.
6) Stay focused and disciplined. Know what you want and strive to have it. Allocate time and space to daily work on your ideas and/or business routine. Come up with creative ways to get what you want.
7) Be positive. Bad, unforeseeable things can happen, and this could go one of two ways. Either you could get extremely discouraged – or, with the right mindset and dedication to your ideas, you could channel your experience into something constructive for your new career.
No matter your dreams or obstacles, you have the power to change your life and change the world. I sincerely hope my work can help you do just that. What are the biggest obstacles on the way to the career of your dreams?